Thursday, April 12, 2007

one long day at a time...

it's been a while since i have posted out here. mom has been a faithful "poster" but i figured it was time for me to get something out here. i recently had the opportunity to spend a few hours alone with dad and have a new appreciation for what my mom has been going through day after day. in the past few posts, mom has referenced "the phase that we are in". we are all praying that this "phase" comes and goes quickly. while it is a wonderful thing to see dad heal, the flip side of that is that he is currently very angry and agitated. he requires "round the clock" observance and this is really wearing on mom.

in the phase that dad is in right now, he understands enough to know that he doesn't want to be there anymore, is mobile enough to get to the doors/elevators/etc and is very determined. the hard part is, he doesn't yet have the reasoning or logic to understand that going out is not yet safe for him. this is why he gets angry. this is like dealing with a determined toddler in a strong man's body. frankly, it is hard.

you see, this is a delicate balance. we are so very thankful that we can be in this stage as we all know at one point we wondered if dad would even make it through the night, or open his eyes, or "move with purpose", etc. He has done all of this and much more. He walks, talks, and is getting stronger each day. it is just hard to balance knowing what is best for dad and yet wanting to keep him "happy" in the immediate term.

please pray that we have patience, strength and wisdom during this phase. please pray that this phase quickly moves on and that we can get dad home soon. finally, continue to pray that the insurance stuff is all worked out. mom has some decisions that need to be made within the next week and needs answers and wisdom.

thanks again for partnering with us in lifting up dad from our knees.


Anonymous said...

Hi Maley's,

The Holy Spirit fills your words.
We will continue to pray and think of you. You are loved, and thought of often.

The Gallagher Family

Anonymous said...

amen, we are with you, thank you
for the update.
God bless all of you
helen & steve

Anonymous said...

Still praying! We love you!
John, Tara and kids!

Anonymous said...

Dear Maley Family,

It is our privilege to pray for you! We are and will continue doing so.

God bless you as you wait for this stage to pass and for insurance matters to be resolved.

Two verses that have come to mean a lot to Ken and me are from I Chronicles 29:11-12.
"Everything in the heavens and earth is Yours, O Lord, and this is Your kingdom. We adore You as being in control of everything. Riches and honor come from You alone. Your hand controls power and might and it is at Your discretion that men are made great and given strength."

Ken and Rosa

Anonymous said...

I am so glad that you have made it this far. I know it has been a long hard road but god is with you and hears all your prayers. I know it is frustrating but you are an awesome family. I know that you will make it through this and Jim is a miracle. I am still praying for you.

Anonymous said...

We are continuing to pray for you and your family. Be encouraged, knowing the Lord is still in control!